Keeping the “shape and mind of our youth”

us 1985=2015 2

I strive to make sure that the person Marina selected from the crowd, was attracted to, and then fell in love with is still visible within me. Our appearance plays a very important role in the spark of passion and intimacy. I have a picture of us when we were first dating.

How far away are we today from resembling the people in that picture? Do we have work to do? Being in good physical shape gives us a confidence in our intimate life. I love the fact that Marina and I look younger than our age, and even more that we feel younger. We would still love each other if we gained forty pounds and waddled around the house in flannel pajamas and stained T-shirts, but I am not sure if would turn each other on. Honestly, I don’t want to take that chance.

We are all aging, and our appearances are bound to change as the years go by. Trying to keep the “shape and mind of our youth” takes on greater importance when we realize that it’s not just about weight-loss or muscle tone. It’s about being the person your spouse fell in love with. For Marina and me, being athletic and active are important parts of who we were when we met.


Get Your FREE Relationship Rescue Videos

Powered by Subscribers Magnet

Who needs a sex machine if you can get a raw cocoa!

Visiting Cacao Factory in Belize

Visiting Cacao Factory in Belize

Known as the “Food of the Gods”, the ancient Mayans can be thanked for their discovery and cultivation of cacao tree, from which cacao powder (also called cocoa powder) and chocolate are made. In fact, Cacao was considered so nutritious that Mayan kings drank up to 30 cups a day to keep up their vigor and virility. Translated to a plain English-they were live Sex Machines!

The health benefits of cacao are enormous. Recent studies have shown that cacao improves brain function, is a natural mood booster and improves blood flow – all very important for the bedroom. Cacao even provides the brain with phenylethylanime, which is that chemical that makes you “feel like you’re in love”.

However, the Cacao powder typically available in the supermarket isn’t this rich nutrient cacao we are talking about. For real health benefits of Cacao powder, it needs to be raw – It’s still very easy to find in your local health food store.

The raw unprocessed unaltered, unheated, organic dark chocolate or cacao powder is one of the greatest erection improving foods around.

This could be enough reason to order a track load of the raw cocoa powder…but wait, here are some more awesome benefits of this “miracle food”.

  •  Raw chocolate can lower blood pressure & improve circulation
  •  Raw chocolate can promote cardiovascular function & health
  •  Raw Chocolate can improve digestion
  •  Raw chocolate can enhance physical and mental well-being

Out of all the foods that contain antioxidants, raw chocolate is the highest in the world. It dwarfs the popular foods and beverages commonly touted as being antioxidant rich foods such as red wine, green tea and blueberries by a factor of 10x or more!

In a Harvard study on the Kuna indian tribe off the coast of Panama, there was a unique chance to examine the health benefits of dark chocolate in a controlled way. Close to the region where the Kuna tribe lived there were other tribes of identical genetic heritage, very similar diet and same lifestyle habits. The only difference was that the Kuna tribe lived in an area where cacao trees grew abundantly. They would consume up to 5 cups of a bitter dark chocolate drink on a daily basis.

This resulted in them having lower rates of all major diseases as well as a longer average life expectancy.

The world’s oldest human being to have ever lived (that was officially documented) was Jeanne Louise Calment of France. She lived to be 122 and many say that one of her secrets to longevity was her consumption of 2.5 pounds of bitter dark chocolate a week. The third “official” oldest person ever to have lived was Sarah Knauss, who also regularly enjoyed the health benefits of chocolate, although not in as large quantities as Jeanne!

It’s too bad that their husbands didn’t like chocolate…otherwise they might become the longest passionately married couples who love sex.

Get Your FREE Relationship Rescue Videos

Powered by Subscribers Magnet

Yippee -It’s a National Hug Day!


National Hug Day or National Hugging Day is an annual event dedicated to hugging. It was created by Kevin Zaborney and occurs annually on January 21. The day was first celebrated on January 21, 1986 in Clio, Michigan, USA.

The holiday is also observed in many other countries. My friends from Russia called me and gave me a virtual hug. The idea of National Hug Day is to encourage everyone to hug family and friends more often.

Kevin Zaborney chose January 21 as it fell between the Christmas and New Year’s Holidays and Valentine’s Day and when he found people are generally in low spirits. He considered that “American society is embarrassed to show feelings in public” and hoped that a National Hugging Day would change that.

Hugging has a great benefits and after years of experiments scientists have concluded that only physical touch between humans, especially loved ones, can facilitate the most potent secretion of oxytocin. Oxytocin is one of the most powerful neurotransmitters in our brain. It’s a unique chemical compound that can only be found in mammals and requires specific stimulating techniques to be released naturally.

It has been proven that hugging for up to 20 seconds can create such an emotional cocktail in two people that a strong bonding might emerge instantaneously. The logical explanation of this phenomenon is that a person with high levels of oxytocin in their system is more likely to be a lot happier, hence “contaminate” you with positive emotions through hugging and make you happier and earn your trust.

Last but not least, scientists suggest that you need to experience at least eight hugs a day to feel happier and more content with life. And it’s not that easy- at first Marian and I were missing these hugs greatly, until we put a Hug-a- Meter on our refrigerator (fancy word for piece of paper and a pen). Since then we do our hugging daily, so every day is a Hugging Day for us!

Please do yourself a BIG favor-start to get connection with hugging today!

Get Your FREE Relationship Rescue Videos

Powered by Subscribers Magnet

Epithany for two…

epithany 3

It’s freezing outside on cloudy Tuesday afternoon. Some Bransonians may take this time to enjoy a nice warm cup of coffee in a cozy place. Marina and I prefer to jump into Table Rock lake for a refreshing swim.

Every year on the Epiphany (19 January in Russia) Russian Orthodox believers are plunged into a blessed section of frozen water three times in remembrance of Jesus’ baptism in the river Jordan by John the Baptist. It is also believed that being submerged into the water on this day will cleanse the body’s sins and ensure a healthy year.

epithany 2

This icy baptism was once a very popular practice for the devout, even the Tsars used to take part, traipsing down from the Winter Palace in St. Petersburg every year to their own personal “prorub”, or ice hole in the nearby Neva river. During the time of communism the tradition all but disappeared with the rest of public religious practice, but in recent years this way of marking the “Kreschenie” (Epiphany) has again become popular. This year more than 30,000 thousand people in Moscow alone took the plunge…and a couple more in Branson, MO.

Get Your FREE Relationship Rescue Videos

Powered by Subscribers Magnet

New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work- Burn Your Boats Instead!


Accordingly to a Senator and an US Presidential nominee Rand Paul-nine out of 10 businesses fail; that’s a pretty doomed statistics, especially for any aspiring entrepreneurs! Here is another hopeless fact: just 8% of people will make their new year’s resolutions. Heck, just go to the gym on January 2nd- it’s full of newbies, and month later almost all of then gone. Are we as a humans programmed to flop?

I have been one of these nine out of ten many, many times. I run to the ground a handful of promising businesses and on the way I lost a nice chunk of American green dollars. I wanted to become a millionaire before thirty, but started earning six figure a year only at the age of thirty-three. Many moons later, a year shy from be a fifty, I finally reached my goal and become one of the tenth in the statistics.

Is there a blueprint that guarantees a concrete solid commitment to achieve the precious victory and the one in a ten spot every time, all the time? Let’s look at the history books…

“In a middle of the night exhausted, desperately discouraged and outnumbered soldiers woke up on the hostile enemy land by the bright light and the sound of the blazing fire—their boats, the only hope for them to return home safely were completely destroyed and leaving them the only choice: to defeat their enemies and come back to their families on nemesis’ ships as a triumphant.”

This is very famous story that was repeated through the centuries many times.

In 711 AD, when Muslim forces invaded the Iberian Peninsula. The commander, Tariq ibn Ziyad, ordered his ships to be burned.

Another such incident was in 1519 AD, during the Spanish conquest of Mexico. Hernán Cortés, the Spanish commander, destroyed his ships, so that his men would have to conquer or die.

Also mentioned in the Roman myth of Aeneas, who scorched his boats after conquering territory in Italy.

Similar event was recorded in Burmese history in the Battle of Naung Yo during the attack on Pegu in 1540. This action was taken to spur Burmese troops forward in battle and give a clear signal that there would be no retreat.

The whole purpose of burning the boats was to drop any concept of retreat from the minds of their troops and commit themselves unwaveringly to the cause – Victory.  Defeat wasn’t an option at all. In ALL cases the victory was granted!

Burn the boats is a great example of what unwavering commitment truly is. Isn’t what we are missing very often when we are making a decision to do something?

How we can apply the same unshakable commitment and tenacity similar to these warriors who were pushed to the greatest limits?

Why not to consider that we are at war with ourselves to get out of our comfort zone and push ourselves to be the best we destined to be, to inspire and share our God’s given talent and services with people and make money along the way?

Twenty five years ago when I arrived to America penniless, with my beautiful wife and a baby boy, we had no choice, but succeed, like many immigrants did, because we literally burned our boats and we were at the point of no return to the Soviet Russia.  My wife and I used this concept a more than few times in life: when we were making $134 a week and our rent was $550 a month…and later after we lost our high paying jobs and were left with $6,500 in monthly expenses.

Interestingly enough many of famous modern entrepreneurs whose families arrived from the foreign country, achieved incredible success. Robert Herjavec a Croatian-born Canadian businessman, investor, and host of the Shark Tank TV show, Yanik Silver an entrepreneur, author, and well-known digital marketing expert and Sergei Brin co-founder of  Google, one of the world’s most profitable Internet company, both immigrated to the United States from the Soviet Union, just named a few.

To me, the difference between making a decision and committing to something is that a decision leaves the possibility of changing our mind if obstacles arise, but a commitment is an obligation to do whatever it takes to meet the goal, no matter what.  If we are not, the consequences will be gravely great so it’s no other choice but succeed.

Let’s use a bit of imagination and create a little movie on what might happen to a guy  who needs to make a radical changes in his life— aka stop procrastinating and take steps forward to a massive action to be better financially, emotionally, physically, etc. but he is not.

If his job, or career, or business is not successful- he’ll not make enough money to pay for the mortgage on the house, on cars, on his kids’ education, vacations, fun dates and quality time with his lovely wife…or future wife. His mutual dreams and aspiration will not be fulfilled which will tarnish his relationship. (We all know that number one reason for divorce is financial difficulties and divorce rate is 55% in North America!)

Eventually the love of his life will drive away on a red convertible with a successful used car dealer, and his daughter with a rebellious issue will become a stripper. His son will drop out from the high school and move to Colorado where he can smoke pot all day long.

He will be so devastated and blame ALL on the guy with a toupee, who stole his wife. He will buy a gun in a pawn shop and drive to the dealership for the revenge.  The guy would start begging him of forgiveness and eventually his heart would melt, because he are not a killer…but accidently he’ll pull a trigger and one more homicide will be reported on the evening news. He’ll get a life in the maximum security prison where he would share a cell with a 7 ft., 280 lb. cute guy with a southern accent, name Bubba who’ll call him “my bitch”.

All kidding aside, it’s all starts with a realization of where we are in current situation and necessity to create a story of WHY we must burn our boats, wherever it could be- weight loss, addiction, failing relationship, procrastination or luck of money. After knowing our why the rest will be easy.

The nineteenth century German poet and philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said, “The one who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” Many inspirational coaches rephrase this saying by teaching that in both life and business, the WHY is more important than the HOW.

When I heard this for the first time, I thought to myself, “Please, just teach me how to be happy, show me how to be successful, tell me how to be rich, and I‘ll figure out why.” It wasn’t till recently that I understood the full significance of WHY. To my surprise, I realized that I had been subconsciously following this formula throughout my whole life by burning my boats.

All of the “lucky” situations and events in my life began with strong ideas of why they had to happen. As soon as I decided to do something in my mind, it led to a commitment, and the how was eventually figured out.


Knowing the desired GOAL make a solid COMMITMENT, then take a massive ACTION to achieve a desirable RESULTS.

At the same time burning the boats doesn’t mean that you should quit a nice-paying job to start an online business, planning to make a millions in a year. You may go south financially and put your family at huge risk before you succeed. You could be passionately motivated the entire time, but it might not be enough. Work full-time instead and have extra cash to invest in your learning, study from the best and study hard, gain some experience and burn the boats when it was in a condition enough to pay your bills.

I would like to hear your burning the boats stories and of how did you find your why to succeed and what motivated you thought the process. Please put your comments below.





Get Your FREE Relationship Rescue Videos

Powered by Subscribers Magnet

Can Love Be for Life! Five Essential Steps to Keep Passion in Your Marriage

Playa-restaurant   On horces on the beach

Allow me to introduce myself, my name is Andrei Soumaitin and this is my beautiful wife Marina Bolchakova. We have been passionately working on developing a strong foundation for our marriage for the past 30 years. At the same time, we’ve been performing worldwide with our award-winning show based on our love story.

Our greatest wish is to share this story so that it can inspire and motivate couples to take practical steps to strengthen their marriages. You can purchase our book on

Book Cover for Kindle-FINAL


Get Your FREE Relationship Rescue Videos

Powered by Subscribers Magnet